I’m abandoning “Blue Monday”…..
Instead I’m celebrating Winnie the Pooh day!
Winnie the Pooh has always been my favourite character, as a child but also in adulthood too! There’s something extremely comforting about him! But as I was thinking on this, I wondered something…
Does he feel anger? Most would say no – most would say that he’s a sweet tempered character with a sense of innocence and naivete. I’d say different. My experience of him is that he often gets frustrated, most often in connection to not being able to source more honey. When he feels frustration he simply says “Oh bother”. That’s it. He doesn’t try to hide it. He lets himself feel frustrated, he verbalizes it and then goes on with his day.
How great is that!? To be able to feel frustrated, angry or stuck and be able to express it. And then leave it there.
So why don’t we do that? Why do we hold onto anger or frustration? I think that this is because anger and frustration are seen as “negative” emotions. There’s often a mentality of “stay positive” in the world, so often we can end up feeling that expressing “negative” emotion is going to have people perceiving us as a “negative person”. So we hold it in. We keep throwing it in a box and sealing it shut until it all builds up and becomes too much to handle.
Wouldn’t it be easier if we could just express our frustrations there and then? Where we could be more like Pooh and pause to have a moment of “Oh bother” before going on with our day.
Of course it’s not that simple or easy sometimes – but maybe simplifying things is the easiest way to manage it.
Managing your frustrations.
So the next time you find yourself feeling frustrated why not try some of these things;
🧸 Make sure to give yourself a moment or two at some point in the day to just stop and breathe.
🧸 Think about how important this frustration is to you…will it still bother you in a day? A week? A month?
🧸 Create a “frustration” note in your phone or page in a notebook. Every time something frustrates you or makes you feel angry, write it in.
🧸 Be more Pooh Bear – if something happens, acknowledge it with an “Oh bother!”…or maybe you’d like to use some expletives – that’s fine too! (Perhaps out of earshot of others, just in case!)